• Karennikii

    wow. So empowering, ao true. i tried.so many times to forgive but they always go bk to the toxic people they were. The narcs just will never change even when they are in their late stage of life. So sad…

    November 08, 2014
  • The Blogger

    It's incredibly sad, Karennikii. To think that some people only make the world worse by being in it. I try to use that as motivation to make sure my being here is worthwhile to others. I'm so glad this post was helpful to you!

    November 09, 2014
  • crumpledwing

    I agree that you should get angry & get better. Perhaps we have a different definition of forgiveness: In my definition, if I forgive someone who has wronged me, what it really means is letting go of that bitterness in your heart & no longer obsessing over those wrongs. For me it doesn’t include condoning their behavior toward me or others whom they’ve mistreated. But I feel that if I don’t “forgive & forget”, that it is my person/soul/happiness that is injured and THE NARC WINS! just a thought.
    And I really appreciate all the wisdom you are sharing with us on your site. Thanks for being here

    June 11, 2015
    • Lucy Rising

      Crumpledwing, I completely concur with what you said. The goal is just that: without letting the narc off the hook, to also not let bitterness and angry poison your own life. You make peace for your own sake, not the narcissist’s. It’s a little bit complex–there’s a full discussion of all this in the Mod 4 Knowledge section of the Lucy Rising Program: http://lucyrising.com/mod4/mod-4-knowledge Thank you for your insights, and for your very kind words!

      June 12, 2015

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